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“Unloose” with Nightlightr

“Unloose” with Nightlightr

October 8, 2019
Nightlightr (Leighton Pustejovsky, rap artist)​ cuts loose with Chuck and Brady about leaving Christian Fundamentalism after decades of repressing his homosexuality. The three discuss how they had reframed their sexualities to fit within the faith and how discussions on the "unchanging" characteristics of God didn't fit their experiences.
 
Leighton masterfully wrote (and produced) a rap album that nails deconstruction and living honestly as gay.
 
Find Unloose by Nightlightr now on CDBabyiTunes and Spotify.
 
CW: Description of sexual assault (non-violent)
 
 
 
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“Many Love” with Katelyn Boyles

“Many Love” with Katelyn Boyles

September 17, 2019

Some people don't fit into the boxes. Katelyn Boyles (she/them/he) joins Chuck and Brady to tell their story of self-discovery after living in a home plagued by rigid Fundamentalism. Now married and practicing ethical polyamory, Katelyn encapsulates the importance of living with authenticity.

 

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“You Are Your Own” with Jamie Lee Finch

“You Are Your Own” with Jamie Lee Finch

June 7, 2019

Fan favorite Jamie Lee Finch returns to the show! She joins Chuck and Brady to discuss her new book on Religious Trauma Syndrome from Christian Evangelicalism, "You are Your Own." 

They discuss her experience writing ✍️, the unresolved trauma held by our bodies 👥, instilled fear of hell 🔥, needs they had as Evangelical children 👂, generational responses to Fundamentalism 👪, cycles that keep people locked in the faith 🔒, wanting to die for a cause (thanks, Jesus Freaks!) 💀, healing through storytelling 🎤, and how trauma responses manifested recently in the post-evangelical online community 💻. 

Visit Jamie's website to buy "You Are Your Own" as an ebook or audiobook: https://jamieleefinch.com

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“Conversion Therapy 2: Going Gay” with Tim Rymel

“Conversion Therapy 2: Going Gay” with Tim Rymel

March 1, 2019

Last season, Chuck and Brady spoke with Curtis, who lived through gay conversion therapy. This season, a former leader of Love in Action (gay conversion therapy) and author, Tim Rymel, tells his experience.

TW: This episode can be triggering for those who had to disassociate from their sexuality to survive in Evangelical envirnoments and others.

Tim promoted the notorious gay conversion therapy organization he helped organize and led. But over the years, he realized that the organization wasn't honest. His inquisitive mind compelled him to keep asking questions and not making excuses when there was no good answer to be found. In addition to leaving Love in Action, Tim eventually left the faith he always knew.

But that is where he found himself.

 

The episode includes several gripping coming out stories.

 

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“The Way I Am” with Jennifer Knapp

“The Way I Am” with Jennifer Knapp

February 6, 2019

Grammy-nominated songwriter, author, and advocate Jennifer Knapp joins the show to discuss coming out, liberal Christianity, and her music career.

Jennifer Knapp runs Inside Out Faith, a non-profit focused on confronting non-affirming churches to encourage more inclusive faith communities. Her memoir, “Facing the Music: My Story,” is available on Amazon, and she is promoting her newest album “Love Comes Around,” which can be found on Spotify, Apple Music, and wherever you stream music. For more information, you can visit her website: Jenniferknapp.org.

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“Pushing Beyond” with Verdell Wright

“Pushing Beyond” with Verdell Wright

June 14, 2018

On this episode of The Life After, we are talking with our friend, Verdell Wright. Verdell is a theology nerd in the purest sense. Boasting theology degrees from Rutgers, Howard and Wesley Theological Seminary. Verdell is also black, and gay. Put all those things together, along with a very intelligent and well conceived deconstruction and you get a powerful thinker, writer, and advocate. Verdell very recently published a piece for for the Black Youth Project about how he went from being a sought after minister to leaving the Christian faith. Or, pushing beyond the Christian faith as he likes to put it. In our interview with Verdell, we cover everything from the problem of theodicy, to coming out, to what it’s like to be the token Black guy in a quote ‘progressive’ white church.

 

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“Failed Missionary” with Corey Pigg

“Failed Missionary” with Corey Pigg

May 28, 2018

Corey Pigg joins Brady and Chuck to discuss his experiences as a full-time missionary with YWAM (Youth With A Mission) that made way for his exit from toxic religion.

Corey has started his own podcast, which focuses on the dark underbelly of modern missions. He is joined by ex-missionaries to discuss what it means to be “called, not qualified” in an industry full of manipulation, crushed dreams, and abuses of power. Learn about what he is doing at failedmissionary.com.

 

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“Recovery” with Kendal

“Recovery” with Kendal

May 4, 2018

Have you recovered what oppressive religion took from you?

When Kendal came out as a lesbian, her life never could be the same again. She was once heavily involved in her church’s youth group, but she was banned from being alone with teenagers because of prejudice against her sexuality. This rejection and feelings of purposelessness drove her to alcoholism, a common path for LGBT+ people who have to face the shame their faith communities place on them.

Kendal joins Chuck and Brady in the studio to discuss how shame is often used by religion to gain and keep followers and how AA changed saved her life. Through the program and hard work, she recovered what oppressive religion took from her.

 

 

Addition Resource: DrugRehab.com: They provide information, resources, and treatment for people battling addiction and related conditions.

 

 

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“The Airing of Grief and Unbelief” with Derek Webb

“The Airing of Grief and Unbelief” with Derek Webb

March 23, 2018

Derek Webb was the lead vocalist for Caemond's Call, a folk/rock band that was wildly popular within Evangelicalism in the early 2000's, before recording solo albums. Known for pushing against the status quo of Christian culture, Derek created a large fanbase of Christians who left like they were on the fringes of their culture. But he had an affair that brought huge life changes. Washington Post, Relevant Magazine, and Huffington Post all wrote articles about his divorce. Also during this time, he examined his beliefs to see if they still held up.

His beliefs didn't survive, but his love for looking at the world and describe it through music remained. He released an album that focused on what he calls his two divorces, one from his ex-wife and the other from God. Many fans, old and new, look at his music as a soundtrack for their faith deconstruction because they see their own pain in Derek's vulnerability found in his music. Others find themselves disappointed that he left the Christianity he was so vocal in supporting years ago. On his podcast, The Airing of Grief, his fans (past and/or present) share their opinions on him, his music, and his unbeliefs.

Derek doesn't just put emphasis on faith deconstruction. He also encourages his fans and listeners to focus on rebuilding more-enriched lives after leaving oppressive religion by finding freedom where there once was guilt and shame.

Chuck and Brady chatted with Derek about investigating long-held belief systems, and he explained how morality means more to him after leaving the faith than it did beforehand. He frankly addresses his affair the eventually ended his marriage and described how the weight of his actions didn't fully affect him until after exiting Christianity.

Lastly, he tackled some major questions Exvangelicals reflect on. What is the source of post-faith morality? How do we explain the seemingly supernatural experiences we felt while in the faith? With God out of the picture, how do we lean on our intuition after years of trying to silence it?

The answer to the last one may surprise you.

 

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“Professional Help” with Ari Holtz, PhD

“Professional Help” with Ari Holtz, PhD

January 16, 2018

What makes counseling good or bad? What ethical laws are in place to protect people from harmful counselors? Are pastors and “church counselors” held to the same standard? How can you know if you’ve been treated fairly by a pastor, church counselor, or therapist?

Ari Holtz, PhD is a licensed psychologist. He joined The *Life After Boyz in the studio to discuss how church counseling often works and derails. Brady and Chuck shared stories of church counseling and spiritual abuse, allowing Ari to give his valuable input. They ended with a game of “Evangelical View Point vs. Ari’s Professional Opinion” that showed the contrast of the two worldviews and methods.

 

Mental Health Resources:

Find a Therapist: www.psychologytoday.com. Search by insurance, sliding scale, clinical issues, gender, location, etc.

NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness): 1-800-950-NAMI (6264). They recommend free or low-cost treatment options.

The Secular Therapy Project: Seculartherapy.org. Want to make sure you’re getting a therapist who isn’t going to push a religious worldview even unconsciously? Check them out here.

211: www.211.org. They provide more mental health resources.

Suicide hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255). You are never alone.

 

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