The Life After Podcast
We Were Sanctified Holy Rollers with Suandria Hall

We Were Sanctified Holy Rollers with Suandria Hall

April 30, 2020

Denver-based counselor and coach, Suandria Hall, joins Chuck and Brady to unpack her Life After.

Suandaria's father was a preacher. So much of her life was entrenched in church culture, filled with rules and expectations. After learning beyond what the Bible could offer, she became interested in why people do what they do. She landed on counseling with an emphasis on religious trauma. Though her religious trauma experience didn't begin until leaving the community, she became a mental health provider for those leaving the faith. She helps people set boundaries, have healthier relationships with forgiveness, and become empowered to be who they are without indoctrinated expectations.

In this episode, they also discuss:

  • what it means to be "trauma-informed"
  • growing up in a black church community
  • forgiveness culture
  • why it's okay not to forgive and forget
  • community building after church

To get in touch with Suandaria, visit her website, mychoicemypower.com.

 

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Sheltered and Exposed with Victoria Lynn Myers

Sheltered and Exposed with Victoria Lynn Myers

February 14, 2020

Victoria Lynn Myers (model) joins Chuck and Brady to unpack her life after!

She grew up in a very strict, Independent Baptist home with many, many rules, but Victoria noticed she didn't value the beliefs over her experience like those around her. When her church community showed obsessions with modesty, she knew there were still horrible sexual abuse occurring.

Her world turned up-side down when Victoria had an empowering sexual experience with someone of the same gender, an act her community strictly forbade as shameful and wrong. That wasn't Victoria's experience, and she wasn't set on reading from their script. Instead, she left the shelter of her family and church community to experience the world that she was conditioned to fear. When she faced difficulties on her own, including sexual abuse, she had to lean on herself and pulled through victoriously.

Listen to Victoria's brave story of overcoming oppression and showing her true self to the world.

Visit Victoria's website here: victorialynnmyers.com

 

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Bye Jesus with Carrie Maya

Bye Jesus with Carrie Maya

January 23, 2020

 CW: This episode includes mentions of race-based physical abuse, racial slurs, sexual abuse, and mention of childhood violence.

Carrie Maya, calling from Australia, opens up to Chuck and Brady about her life after leaving a high-demand Charismatic community, spiritual abuse, and life-long conditioning to submit to authority.
 
A very tumultuous childhood and extreme Fundamentalism positioned Carried to be victimized by self-seeking authoritative voices. First, it was family. Then her pastor. And finally, an intimate partner. Carrie retells how she changed the narrative and discovered help in finding spirituality outside of Christianity.
 
To learn more about Carrie and her book, visit her insta @Hexvangelical.
 
 

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Uncomfortable Confessions with Ronna Russell

Uncomfortable Confessions with Ronna Russell

January 13, 2020

Ronna Russell joins Chuck and Brady to discuss her life after strict Pentecostalism and oppressive Purity Culture. Her saucy memoir, The Uncomfortable Confessions Of a Preacher's Kid, tells her story of not fitting into Christian culture's idea of what a woman should be and how she found her true self instead.

The episode begins with advice on how to safely set-up a sexual encounter through an app and other advice for those dipping their toes into the sexual waters. Episode ends with practice guidelines for writing about your experience when it includes harmful actions from family members.

Connect with Ronna and buy her book at https://ronnarussell.com.

CW: Some mentions of sexual abuse

 

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Black Nonbelievers with Elle Reneé

Black Nonbelievers with Elle Reneé

December 11, 2019

Elle Reneé of St. Louis Chapter of Black Nonbelievers joins Chuck and Brady in the studio.

 
Elle's step father was a pastor for multiple churches of varying denominations and current pastor of a nondenominational church, and some of their church services would go all day long. All of this made church a very foundational part of Elle's childhood. Along with the good side of closely-knit church communities also brought the bad, including lot of unwanted touch.
 
Elle got married during the same week she graduated high school and turned 18. After two failed marriages, she learned to stand up for herself. As she started to pull away from the faith, many church people would report back to her family. She set boundaries to protect herself and hasn't looked back since.
 
Chuck and Elle share experiences of being People of Color, and in the finale segment, Brady and Elle discuss parenting after religion.
 
Elle is the Chief Organizer of the St. Louis Chapter of Black Nonbelievers, a friendly, informative secular community connecting People of Color (and allies). Learn more on their website, blacknonbelievers.com.

 

 

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Ambiguous Loss with Janice Selbie

Ambiguous Loss with Janice Selbie

November 27, 2019

Counselor ("counsellor" for the Canucks) Janice Selbie joins Chuck and Brady for a insightful, practical conversation on grieving God.

Janice came from a ultra-Fundamentalism background that became hyper-charged after marrying her now ex-husband. While working at a bookstore, she befriended a group of Mennonite (Anabaptist) women and began wearing head coverings like they did out of a obedience to the Bible.

Around the time of her divorce, Janice encountered traumas that shook her from her cognitive dissonance, and she left the faith. Next, she pursued a counselor degree, met Dr. Marlene Winell, and now specializes in freeing people from the mental grips of Fundamentalism.

 

In this episode, Janice shares practical ways to recover from religion healthily, the importance of rituals to symbolize the end of one's Fundamentalism, and how cognitive behavioral therapy can be very useful.

Janice is organizing the first-of-its-kind Conference on Religious Trauma in Vancouver from April 24-26, 2020.

Visit CORT2020.com to learn more! Learn about Janice's online workshop, Divorcing Religion at divorcingreligion.com.

 

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Unloose with Nightlightr

Unloose with Nightlightr

October 8, 2019
Nightlightr (Leighton Pustejovsky, rap artist)​ cuts loose with Chuck and Brady about leaving Christian Fundamentalism after decades of repressing his homosexuality. The three discuss how they had reframed their sexualities to fit within the faith and how discussions on the "unchanging" characteristics of God didn't fit their experiences.
 
Leighton masterfully wrote (and produced) a rap album that nails deconstruction and living honestly as gay.
 
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CW: Description of sexual assault (non-violent)
 
 
 
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Many Love with Katelyn Boyles

Many Love with Katelyn Boyles

September 17, 2019

Some people don't fit into the boxes. Katelyn Boyles (she/them/he) joins Chuck and Brady to tell their story of self-discovery after living in a home plagued by rigid Fundamentalism. Now married and practicing ethical polyamory, Katelyn encapsulates the importance of living with authenticity.

 

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You Are Your Own with Jamie Lee Finch

You Are Your Own with Jamie Lee Finch

June 7, 2019

Fan favorite Jamie Lee Finch returns to the show! She joins Chuck and Brady to discuss her new book on Religious Trauma Syndrome from Christian Evangelicalism, "You are Your Own." 

They discuss her experience writing ✍️, the unresolved trauma held by our bodies 👥, instilled fear of hell 🔥, needs they had as Evangelical children 👂, generational responses to Fundamentalism 👪, cycles that keep people locked in the faith 🔒, wanting to die for a cause (thanks, Jesus Freaks!) 💀, healing through storytelling 🎤, and how trauma responses manifested recently in the post-evangelical online community 💻. 

Visit Jamie's website to buy "You Are Your Own" as an ebook or audiobook: https://jamieleefinch.com

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Conversion Therapy 2: Going Gay with Tim Rymel

Conversion Therapy 2: Going Gay with Tim Rymel

March 1, 2019

Last season, Chuck and Brady spoke with Curtis, who lived through gay conversion therapy. This season, a former leader of Love in Action (gay conversion therapy) and author, Tim Rymel, tells his experience.

TW: This episode can be triggering for those who had to disassociate from their sexuality to survive in Evangelical envirnoments and others.

Tim promoted the notorious gay conversion therapy organization he helped organize and led. But over the years, he realized that the organization wasn't honest. His inquisitive mind compelled him to keep asking questions and not making excuses when there was no good answer to be found. In addition to leaving Love in Action, Tim eventually left the faith he always knew.

But that is where he found himself.

 

The episode includes several gripping coming out stories.

 

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