The Life After Podcast
Ambiguous Loss with Janice Selbie

Ambiguous Loss with Janice Selbie

November 27, 2019

Counselor ("counsellor" for the Canucks) Janice Selbie joins Chuck and Brady for a insightful, practical conversation on grieving God.

Janice came from a ultra-Fundamentalism background that became hyper-charged after marrying her now ex-husband. While working at a bookstore, she befriended a group of Mennonite (Anabaptist) women and began wearing head coverings like they did out of a obedience to the Bible.

Around the time of her divorce, Janice encountered traumas that shook her from her cognitive dissonance, and she left the faith. Next, she pursued a counselor degree, met Dr. Marlene Winell, and now specializes in freeing people from the mental grips of Fundamentalism.

 

In this episode, Janice shares practical ways to recover from religion healthily, the importance of rituals to symbolize the end of one's Fundamentalism, and how cognitive behavioral therapy can be very useful.

Janice is organizing the first-of-its-kind Conference on Religious Trauma in Vancouver from April 24-26, 2020.

Visit CORT2020.com to learn more! Learn about Janice's online workshop, Divorcing Religion at divorcingreligion.com.

 

Transitional music by Nightlightr | CDBabyiTunes and Spotify

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Unloose with Nightlightr

Unloose with Nightlightr

October 8, 2019
Nightlightr (Leighton Pustejovsky, rap artist)​ cuts loose with Chuck and Brady about leaving Christian Fundamentalism after decades of repressing his homosexuality. The three discuss how they had reframed their sexualities to fit within the faith and how discussions on the "unchanging" characteristics of God didn't fit their experiences.
 
Leighton masterfully wrote (and produced) a rap album that nails deconstruction and living honestly as gay.
 
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CW: Description of sexual assault (non-violent)
 
 
 
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Born Again Again with Katie + Joe Bauer

Born Again Again with Katie + Joe Bauer

August 29, 2019

Katie and Joe Bauer, married and newly-deconstructing, join Chuck and Brady to discuss campus ministries, speaking in tongues, questioning the faith, critically examining if they were brainwashed, not wanting to lose their faith, doubling down on doubt with service, the complex feelings of realizing Fundamentalism isn't real, and how deconstruction has touched their marriage.

 

Find Katie and Joe's podcast, Born Again Again, where they discuss their deconversion as it's happening here: linktr.ee/bornagainagain

 

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Here is a link to the Reddit Post mentioned in the show: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueAtheism/comments/2v36v9/in_response_to_the_pastor_looking_for_honest/

Parenting Forward with Cindy Wang Brandt

Parenting Forward with Cindy Wang Brandt

July 30, 2019

Cindy Wang Brandt, author of Parenting Forward, joins the show to discuss how deconstructing parents can pass values to their children without relying on fear and indoctrination.

Find out more about Cindy's work, including her book and podcast, on her website, cindywangbrandt.com.

 

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Special Show Note: 

We apologize to our friend, Chrissy Stroop, for using the incorrect pronouns in the last episode. Since we had recorded the episode in May, Chrissy has begun transitioning and prefers she/her pronouns. At the time of the recording, they/them were preferred.

We fully support and affirm Chrissy. Read more about her inspiring journey here:

http://ow.ly/ar3350vj4ug

You Are Your Own with Jamie Lee Finch

You Are Your Own with Jamie Lee Finch

June 7, 2019

Fan favorite Jamie Lee Finch returns to the show! She joins Chuck and Brady to discuss her new book on Religious Trauma Syndrome from Christian Evangelicalism, "You are Your Own." 

They discuss her experience writing ✍️, the unresolved trauma held by our bodies 👥, instilled fear of hell 🔥, needs they had as Evangelical children 👂, generational responses to Fundamentalism 👪, cycles that keep people locked in the faith 🔒, wanting to die for a cause (thanks, Jesus Freaks!) 💀, healing through storytelling 🎤, and how trauma responses manifested recently in the post-evangelical online community 💻. 

Visit Jamie's website to buy "You Are Your Own" as an ebook or audiobook: https://jamieleefinch.com

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Contact Evangelism with Nikki Mayeux

Contact Evangelism with Nikki Mayeux

May 19, 2019
Guest Nikki Mayeux joins Chuck and Brady to dish on reality house dramas🔥, childhood religious OCD and anxiety😟, intrusive thoughts😵, contact evangelism🏈, inner voice♾️, faith deconstructing while married👫, and intentional communities 🗑️ (Crust Punks for Jesus?)!
 
Episode begins with a timely message to women from Chuck.
 
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Cults Inside Out with Rick Alan Ross

Cults Inside Out with Rick Alan Ross

May 7, 2019

Renowned cult deprogrammer and expert Rick Alan Ross Ross joins Chuck, Brady and special guest host Corey Pigg (Season 1, Episode 20, host of Failed Missionary) to discuss the everything related to harmful cult communities. From how to define a cult and how they work, to assessing what is and isn’t a cult, to discussions about the effects of cults on politics and popular culture. Ross is a dynamic thinker, a clear communicator, and a true expert in his field.

Rick Alan Ross is the author of Cults Inside Out, the founder and executive director of the Cult Education Institute (culteducation.com), has acted as an expert cult consultant for everything from best-selling video game Far Cry 5, to Television and Movies. Rick has intervened in over 500 deprogramming cases aimed at getting people out of dangerous cults.

Leaving the Fold with Marlene Winell, PhD

Leaving the Fold with Marlene Winell, PhD

April 16, 2019

Dr. Marlene Winell (human development consultant, educator, and writer) joins Chuck and Brady to discuss her life-changing book, "Leaving the Fold," and her ground-breaking research on Religious Trauma Syndrome.

They discuss how and why people are often trapped in Christian Fundamentalism and most importantly, how to break free and recover.

Visit Marlene's website to learn more about Religious Trauma Syndrome, to purchase your copy of "Leaving the Fold," and to sign up for one of her up-coming weekend retreats for people recovering from oppressive religion: https://journeyfree.org

 

Happy Deconstructing!

Religion of Trauma with Andrew Jasko

Religion of Trauma with Andrew Jasko

March 28, 2019

Andrew Jasko (lifeafterdogma.org) joins Chuck and Brady. He tells his story growing up passionate about Christian Fundamentalism and leaving it all behind. They discuss the Charismatic Movement, damage of sexual repression, the mind-blowing origins of Yahweh and El, how humans respond to suffering, and how the Bible seems to have been been pieced together as a response to societal trauma.

Andrew ends by talking about the healing he is finding in psychedelics, meditation, and Eastern Spirituality.

Andrew's Story: Andrew's father was an Assembly of God pastor. Before he was born, Andrew was prophesied to be a spiritual warrior. As he grew up, he planned to win 1,000,000,000 souls to Jesus. His whole life pointed toward a future as a pastor or missionary. He got a Theology degree from Wheaton College and worked on another at Princeton. He had plans to go to India and start saving the world. But things weren't adding up.

A faith that promised joy was exhausting him. His doubts got louder, but most of all, he clearly saw how the faith, despite its use of language about peace, produced never-ending anxiety.

Andrew reluctantly studied and gave air to his doubts. Though losing one's faith feels like dying, he kept going. Driven to improve his mental health, he sought to understand how the faith kept him for so long and how he can heal.

Understanding how humans respond to trauma changed his life. He saw similar patterns in the Bible's history. Psychedelics and Eastern Spirituality gave him a new sense of purpose and understanding his life after dogma. He writes about spiritual healing on his blog and coaches others healing from spiritual trauma.

Conversion Therapy 2: Going Gay with Tim Rymel

Conversion Therapy 2: Going Gay with Tim Rymel

March 1, 2019

Last season, Chuck and Brady spoke with Curtis, who lived through gay conversion therapy. This season, a former leader of Love in Action (gay conversion therapy) and author, Tim Rymel, tells his experience.

TW: This episode can be triggering for those who had to disassociate from their sexuality to survive in Evangelical envirnoments and others.

Tim promoted the notorious gay conversion therapy organization he helped organize and led. But over the years, he realized that the organization wasn't honest. His inquisitive mind compelled him to keep asking questions and not making excuses when there was no good answer to be found. In addition to leaving Love in Action, Tim eventually left the faith he always knew.

But that is where he found himself.

 

The episode includes several gripping coming out stories.

 

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