The Life After Podcast
We Were Sanctified Holy Rollers with Suandria Hall

We Were Sanctified Holy Rollers with Suandria Hall

April 30, 2020

Denver-based counselor and coach, Suandria Hall, joins Chuck and Brady to unpack her Life After.

Suandaria's father was a preacher. So much of her life was entrenched in church culture, filled with rules and expectations. After learning beyond what the Bible could offer, she became interested in why people do what they do. She landed on counseling with an emphasis on religious trauma. Though her religious trauma experience didn't begin until leaving the community, she became a mental health provider for those leaving the faith. She helps people set boundaries, have healthier relationships with forgiveness, and become empowered to be who they are without indoctrinated expectations.

In this episode, they also discuss:

  • what it means to be "trauma-informed"
  • growing up in a black church community
  • forgiveness culture
  • why it's okay not to forgive and forget
  • community building after church

To get in touch with Suandaria, visit her website, mychoicemypower.com.

 

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Distanced Socializing with Chuck and Brady

Distanced Socializing with Chuck and Brady

March 21, 2020

The Life After Podcast Hosts, Chuck Parson (R) and Brady Hardin (L), take a pause on their backlog of upcoming episodes to have a special, no-guest episode to address Coronavirus.

 

In this episode, they discuss:

-how to keep End-Time anxiety at bay during current events
-recommendations for staying busy
-grieving
-meaning-making
-Chuck says "fuzzy red balls" and Brady doesn't laugh
-Plus A LOT more!

 

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Uncomfortable Confessions with Ronna Russell

Uncomfortable Confessions with Ronna Russell

January 13, 2020

Ronna Russell joins Chuck and Brady to discuss her life after strict Pentecostalism and oppressive Purity Culture. Her saucy memoir, The Uncomfortable Confessions Of a Preacher's Kid, tells her story of not fitting into Christian culture's idea of what a woman should be and how she found her true self instead.

The episode begins with advice on how to safely set-up a sexual encounter through an app and other advice for those dipping their toes into the sexual waters. Episode ends with practice guidelines for writing about your experience when it includes harmful actions from family members.

Connect with Ronna and buy her book at https://ronnarussell.com.

CW: Some mentions of sexual abuse

 

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Ambiguous Loss with Janice Selbie

Ambiguous Loss with Janice Selbie

November 27, 2019

Counselor ("counsellor" for the Canucks) Janice Selbie joins Chuck and Brady for a insightful, practical conversation on grieving God.

Janice came from a ultra-Fundamentalism background that became hyper-charged after marrying her now ex-husband. While working at a bookstore, she befriended a group of Mennonite (Anabaptist) women and began wearing head coverings like they did out of a obedience to the Bible.

Around the time of her divorce, Janice encountered traumas that shook her from her cognitive dissonance, and she left the faith. Next, she pursued a counselor degree, met Dr. Marlene Winell, and now specializes in freeing people from the mental grips of Fundamentalism.

 

In this episode, Janice shares practical ways to recover from religion healthily, the importance of rituals to symbolize the end of one's Fundamentalism, and how cognitive behavioral therapy can be very useful.

Janice is organizing the first-of-its-kind Conference on Religious Trauma in Vancouver from April 24-26, 2020.

Visit CORT2020.com to learn more! Learn about Janice's online workshop, Divorcing Religion at divorcingreligion.com.

 

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Many Love with Katelyn Boyles

Many Love with Katelyn Boyles

September 17, 2019

Some people don't fit into the boxes. Katelyn Boyles (she/them/he) joins Chuck and Brady to tell their story of self-discovery after living in a home plagued by rigid Fundamentalism. Now married and practicing ethical polyamory, Katelyn encapsulates the importance of living with authenticity.

 

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Born Again Again with Katie + Joe Bauer

Born Again Again with Katie + Joe Bauer

August 29, 2019

Katie and Joe Bauer, married and newly-deconstructing, join Chuck and Brady to discuss campus ministries, speaking in tongues, questioning the faith, critically examining if they were brainwashed, not wanting to lose their faith, doubling down on doubt with service, the complex feelings of realizing Fundamentalism isn't real, and how deconstruction has touched their marriage.

 

Find Katie and Joe's podcast, Born Again Again, where they discuss their deconversion as it's happening here: linktr.ee/bornagainagain

 

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Here is a link to the Reddit Post mentioned in the show: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueAtheism/comments/2v36v9/in_response_to_the_pastor_looking_for_honest/

Parenting Forward with Cindy Wang Brandt

Parenting Forward with Cindy Wang Brandt

July 30, 2019

Cindy Wang Brandt, author of Parenting Forward, joins the show to discuss how deconstructing parents can pass values to their children without relying on fear and indoctrination.

Find out more about Cindy's work, including her book and podcast, on her website, cindywangbrandt.com.

 

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Special Show Note: 

We apologize to our friend, Chrissy Stroop, for using the incorrect pronouns in the last episode. Since we had recorded the episode in May, Chrissy has begun transitioning and prefers she/her pronouns. At the time of the recording, they/them were preferred.

We fully support and affirm Chrissy. Read more about her inspiring journey here:

http://ow.ly/ar3350vj4ug

Lost in Translation with Doug Demick

Lost in Translation with Doug Demick

June 26, 2019
Doug Demick joins Chuck and Brady to discuss his past with Wycliffe Bible Translators, not wanting to preach the Gospel as a Christian, rapture anxiety, marriage while deconstructing, his brush with missions, being more free to love people post-fundamentalism, and how seeking the Holy Spirit and FreeCell Solitaire led to his exit from Fundamentalism.
 
Episode begins with Brady explaining why Heaven and Hell would be an absolute administrative nightmare.
 
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Leaving the Fold with Marlene Winell, PhD

Leaving the Fold with Marlene Winell, PhD

April 16, 2019

Dr. Marlene Winell (human development consultant, educator, and writer) joins Chuck and Brady to discuss her life-changing book, "Leaving the Fold," and her ground-breaking research on Religious Trauma Syndrome.

They discuss how and why people are often trapped in Christian Fundamentalism and most importantly, how to break free and recover.

Visit Marlene's website to learn more about Religious Trauma Syndrome, to purchase your copy of "Leaving the Fold," and to sign up for one of her up-coming weekend retreats for people recovering from oppressive religion: https://journeyfree.org

 

Happy Deconstructing!

Religion of Trauma with Andrew Jasko

Religion of Trauma with Andrew Jasko

March 28, 2019

Andrew Jasko (lifeafterdogma.org) joins Chuck and Brady. He tells his story growing up passionate about Christian Fundamentalism and leaving it all behind. They discuss the Charismatic Movement, damage of sexual repression, the mind-blowing origins of Yahweh and El, how humans respond to suffering, and how the Bible seems to have been been pieced together as a response to societal trauma.

Andrew ends by talking about the healing he is finding in psychedelics, meditation, and Eastern Spirituality.

Andrew's Story: Andrew's father was an Assembly of God pastor. Before he was born, Andrew was prophesied to be a spiritual warrior. As he grew up, he planned to win 1,000,000,000 souls to Jesus. His whole life pointed toward a future as a pastor or missionary. He got a Theology degree from Wheaton College and worked on another at Princeton. He had plans to go to India and start saving the world. But things weren't adding up.

A faith that promised joy was exhausting him. His doubts got louder, but most of all, he clearly saw how the faith, despite its use of language about peace, produced never-ending anxiety.

Andrew reluctantly studied and gave air to his doubts. Though losing one's faith feels like dying, he kept going. Driven to improve his mental health, he sought to understand how the faith kept him for so long and how he can heal.

Understanding how humans respond to trauma changed his life. He saw similar patterns in the Bible's history. Psychedelics and Eastern Spirituality gave him a new sense of purpose and understanding his life after dogma. He writes about spiritual healing on his blog and coaches others healing from spiritual trauma.

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