The Life After Podcast
BONUS EPISODE! Chuck and Brady at Ethical Society Mid Rivers

BONUS EPISODE! Chuck and Brady at Ethical Society Mid Rivers

November 9, 2018

Here is some bonus content to hold you over until Season 2 premieres!

Chuck and Brady were recently invited to present at the Ethical Society Mid Rivers in Saint Peters, MO. They shared the history of the podcast and discussed topics commonly tackled on the show, such as indoctrination, spiritual abuse, religious trauma syndrome, and religious gaslighting.

 

Season 2 coming soon!

 

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“I Thought I was the Only One” Season One Finale with Joey Hill

“I Thought I was the Only One” Season One Finale with Joey Hill

July 31, 2018

Chuck and Brady interview a new friend they met purely because of the show, Joey Hill. Joey shares his story of overcoming a gauntlet of obstacles after leaving harmful religion. Determined to keep going, Joey found a unique way to shape his future… but it didn’t go as planned. Brady and Joey discuss how hard it is to bounce back from leaving religion, especially for those who built their futures around plans of being in the ministry. But over time, Joey found his footing and kept going and going and...

After their interview with Joey, Chuck and Brady take time to reflect on what the first season of the podcast has meant to them, sandwiched by audio messages left by the wonderful listeners. <3

 

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“The Breakfast Church” with Jessie W.

“The Breakfast Church” with Jessie W.

April 10, 2018

TW: This episode mentions a suicide attempt, birth trauma

She started off Southern Baptist. Then she was Charismatic. And now, she’s with the Breakfast Church, a weekly group at her house of other people deconstructing their faith (their only doctrine is to eat breakfast, joke about their old lives, and drink mimosas).

On this episode, Chuck and Brady talk to their new friend, Jessie W. She was the “bad girl” at her Christian college before she met her future ex-husband and started to attend a Charismatic church together. After a few weird experiences, she wanted to learn more about the power of the Holy Spirit and trained to use the gift of prophecy. As the years went on, Jessie’s life is filled with tragedy after tragedy. After two very complicated pregnancies and a suicide attempt of a close family member, she asked: “why me?”

 

 

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“The Airing of Grief and Unbelief” with Derek Webb

“The Airing of Grief and Unbelief” with Derek Webb

March 23, 2018

Derek Webb was the lead vocalist for Caemond's Call, a folk/rock band that was wildly popular within Evangelicalism in the early 2000's, before recording solo albums. Known for pushing against the status quo of Christian culture, Derek created a large fanbase of Christians who left like they were on the fringes of their culture. But he had an affair that brought huge life changes. Washington Post, Relevant Magazine, and Huffington Post all wrote articles about his divorce. Also during this time, he examined his beliefs to see if they still held up.

His beliefs didn't survive, but his love for looking at the world and describe it through music remained. He released an album that focused on what he calls his two divorces, one from his ex-wife and the other from God. Many fans, old and new, look at his music as a soundtrack for their faith deconstruction because they see their own pain in Derek's vulnerability found in his music. Others find themselves disappointed that he left the Christianity he was so vocal in supporting years ago. On his podcast, The Airing of Grief, his fans (past and/or present) share their opinions on him, his music, and his unbeliefs.

Derek doesn't just put emphasis on faith deconstruction. He also encourages his fans and listeners to focus on rebuilding more-enriched lives after leaving oppressive religion by finding freedom where there once was guilt and shame.

Chuck and Brady chatted with Derek about investigating long-held belief systems, and he explained how morality means more to him after leaving the faith than it did beforehand. He frankly addresses his affair the eventually ended his marriage and described how the weight of his actions didn't fully affect him until after exiting Christianity.

Lastly, he tackled some major questions Exvangelicals reflect on. What is the source of post-faith morality? How do we explain the seemingly supernatural experiences we felt while in the faith? With God out of the picture, how do we lean on our intuition after years of trying to silence it?

The answer to the last one may surprise you.

 

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“Indoctrination” with Tim Warzel and Jamie Lee Finch

“Indoctrination” with Tim Warzel and Jamie Lee Finch

February 20, 2018

Indoctrination is one very essential topic that permeates everything we talk about on this show, but so far we haven’t really addressed it directly. It is so pervasive within religious systems that its almost impossible to talk about anything on this show without it looming in the background.

That makes it difficult to really define and nail down. OED defines it as “The process of teaching a person or group to accept a set of beliefs uncritically.” What you end up with is a long line of dominoes, each domino is one of the things you have to believe to in order for your religious system to remain whole. Indoctrination is the insistence that you don’t poke, prod, remove, or even too closely observe the any of the dominoes because what happens if you knock one over? The whole system is exposed.

Host Brady and Chuck sat down their friends, Tim Warzel and Jamie Lee Finch, to discuss the ever-present ghost called indoctrination.

To learn more about Jamie’s work, follow her on Twitter, @jamieleefinch or visit her website: jamieleefinch.com.

 

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“Prey” with Kyla Bauer and Jamie Lee Finch

“Prey” with Kyla Bauer and Jamie Lee Finch

December 1, 2017

TW: This episode contains stories of sexual, physical, and spiritual abuse (not in great detail).

The episode that kept growing! What started as a mini-project to release while Chuck worked on a more complex episode kept putting itself in our view as the news of sexual predators poured out. Much of the world has a problem knowing, defining, and respecting consent. Women, who were once made to feel powerless, have proven their predators wrong by coming forward while others, for a wide spectrum of reasons, remain silent. We speak with one of our favorite guests, Jamie Lee Finch, about consent, desire for power that leads to abuse, and sexual ethics.

Listener Kyla Bauer ends the episode with a powerful story of how her family did what was “right” in the eyes of the Bible, but it led them right back into the cycle of abuse.

To learn more about Jamie’s work, follow her on Twitter, @jamieleefinch or visit her website: jamieleefinch.com.

 

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“Enough” with Ashley Adams

“Enough” with Ashley Adams

September 19, 2017

Trigger warning: Episode touches on domestic abuse (and begins with a John Piper audio clip).

Ashley Adams is a strong woman. She has overcome a lot including growing up with Brady, navigating youth group with undiagnosed depression and anxiety, the loss of her mother, domestic abuse, divorce, and more. She joins hosts Brady Hardin and Chuck Parson to tell her brave story of how she had enough and fought back hard for her own happiness and fulfillment.

This episode mentions domestic abuse without going into detail. If you are being abused by your partner, know there is nothing you have done or are doing to cause the abuse. It is solely the choice of the abuser. It may seem impossible to leave, change your circumstances, or reach out and ask for help you need, but it is possible. However, you know your abuser best, so think carefully through your situation and circumstances and do what is the best for you.

If you are in immediate danger, call 9-1-1.

For anonymous, confidential help, 24/7, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or  1-800-787-3224 (TTY).

http://ncadv.org/learn-more/get-help

 

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“Out of Control” with Kristen H.

“Out of Control” with Kristen H.

August 11, 2017

Kristen retells her story of moving across the nation to join a religious community that eroded away her freedoms. After bouncing back from rock bottom, Kristen tells of how she got her life back.

Also, Brady and Kristen reflect on their horrible date from over a decade ago, on which he tried (and failed) to hold her hand in a Wal-mart parking lot.

 

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“God’s Only Forgotten Son” with Brady Hardin

“God’s Only Forgotten Son” with Brady Hardin

July 4, 2017

Instead of a regular guest, Chuck interviews Brady, host and founder of The Life After, about his childhood and exit from religion. Brady opens up about his difficult childhood, growing up gay in church, and the spiritual abuse that eventually led to his faith’s demise (but the birth of this podcast).

 

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“Unbuckling The Bible Belt” with Jamie Lee Finch

“Unbuckling The Bible Belt” with Jamie Lee Finch

June 21, 2017

This episode includes an honest, frank conversation about sex.

Brady Hardin and Chuck Parson take the show on the road to Nashville, TN to interview Jamie Lee Finch on the subjects of sexuality, the dangers of Purity Culture, and the downfalls of Patriarchy. Jamie describes how much of her journey after leaving religion involves understanding her body. She gives life-changing advice on how to become a whole person and heal from trauma.

Bonus: Listen to Jamie reading her own original poems throughout the episode.

To learn more about Jamie’s work, follow her on Twitter, @jamieleefinch or visit her website: jamieleefinch.com

 

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